Not long ago my main squeeze and I attended a friend’s dinner party. After dinner during small talk in the living room, two women were having a “Pro-life / Pro-choice” friendly, but heated debate. What we kept listening to were arguments for both sides. The debate was so intense that that my friend’s dog took shelter under a couch cushion. After about an hour of them taking turns making each other wrong, I realized that they were not responding to each other’s arguments. Every time either would make a point the other responded with a different point or an attack. All of a sudden, I had a realization, cognition, and an epiphany that I wanted to share. “Excuse me, can I ask you a question?" All of a sudden there was a polite silence between the debaters. Even my friend’s dog stuck his head out from under the couch cushion with an expression of relief. I told the ladies that I found their debate informative. However I realized that their attention should be focu